Don't shoot the messenger

That's a common (and useful) remark. However, you might try Warren S. McCulloch's variation: 'Don't bite my finger - look where it's pointing.'

For use when discussions get heated and personal ...

This is an excellent alternative to 'don't shoot the messenger;' it comes from Warren S. McCulloch:

'Don't bite my finger - look where it's pointing.'


Love,

Valerie.